Boundaries

Teaching someone boundaries can be a very hard concept for some.  I know as a parent, I already try to teach my children you need to respect people's boundaries.  This is a lesson, I think, some citizens of Port Charles could use to hear too. The Golden Rule I have always tried to teach is: Respect people boundaries and privacy because you would like them to do the same for you. 

Elizabeth had less then respect for boundaries today as she sat down at Kelly's and was less then pleasant about Maxie to Maxie's boyfriend.  While we all know Maxie is no saint she doesn't make out like she is.  Maxie will be the first person to tell you, she is not perfect.  She broke up  a marriage and she isn't proud of that.  But let's not forget while Liz was quick to point out today to Matt that Maxie was busy rolling around in her bed, Saint Elizabeth was rolling around Sam and Jason's bed.  Those that live in glass houses really should cast the first stone.  Also lets not forget in the fairly recent past when Elizabeth was engaged to Lucky she was having an affair with Nikolas.  She really should have respected the boundaries of Matt and Maxie's relationship enough not to bring up those thing about Maxie to Matt.  However, Matt didn't sleek away in shock and horror of Maxie's past.  He knows no one is perfect especially Maxie and more especially Elizabeth.  It was Matt who pointed out in recent history Maxie could have made Liz's life a lot worse if she had blown the paternity secrete sky high.  Also Matt he is a catch because he decided to point out to Elizabeth that right now she is the other woman with Lucky and it is no different then what she was saying about Maxie when it came down to it.  So, therefore,  maybe Elizabeth should respect the fact Lucky is married and that she is not his wife right now. 

Now before everyone gets upset, this does not mean I don't want an LL2 reunion, but I don't like the way they are going about it right now.  Siobhian isn't my favorite, but she doesn't deserve to be have a husband that treats her like he has been nor does she deserve to be killed in a car accident by his ex-wife which is what is coming up.  I feel Siobhan has gotten the bad end of the deal.  I just wanted them to have it so she decided to go back to Ireland and leave Lucky.  He would be broken-hearted then he and Liz would grow closer slowly.  I wanted the LL2 reunion to come on slowly and planned but not rushed and over night. I also didn't want Siobhan's departure to be so abrupt. I didn't want for him to almost kill his current wife in a fire, then to treat her like an old shoe then to get her killed by Liz's horrible driving.  I wanted her exit to be different. Also I didn't want Lucky to forgive Liz so easily for all the horrible (and lets face it there is no other way to describe all that she has done to him) things she has done to him over the years with the fact he is Aiden's father.  That doesn't erase it.  I wanted them to build a friendship slowly and for her to earn his forgiveness completely.

Well no one learned more today about boundaries then Carly.  Carly wasn't the first person Jason went to telling her he was going to propose to Sam.   Carly wasn't the first person they told or even the 4th person they told.  Carly has always considered herself in charge of Jason's life and today she just got knocked off that pedestal and that fall from status hurt quite a bit for her. Let's look at it from Carly's perspective for a minute (only a minute) don't worry I am not siding with her.

Carly did find out from Elizabeth of all freaking people.  I mean I think it would have been much easier to take if it came from Maxie or even reading it in the paper.  But that right there didn't help the situation at all.  Carly has had many many failed relationships in her life.  She is does not have any friends to really turn to except one.  She isn't close with her family.  Her only family member she was remotely close to was Uncle Luke but then he self-destructed and blew town.  She is a Spencer so she is doomed to failed relationships.  She's been married so many times it is hard to keep count.  She is mean as hell to anyone who stands in her way.  She is extremely needy but there is some reason for that. She has 2 children with a mobster and has spent most of her time trying to keep her kids safe.  She is an excellent mother and would do absolutely anything for her children.   She is a very good mother and over the years has earned some titles she didn't deserve by other residence in town.  Overall I like Carly we see in Port Charles today.  However, she has become far too dependent on Jason thinking his sole purpose in life is to be at her beckon call. She has no respect for Jason's life or anyone in Jason's life. Carly was okay with him being with Sam because she wanted him to be happy but she was pretty sure Jason and Sam would never get married.  She was sure Sam would do something to screw up their relationship.  She was also pretty sure since Jason and Sam were, from appearances sake,  allergic to marriage so he would never consider getting married and she would never have to loose he crawls she has in him. But Carly underestimated something, Jason isn't Peter Pan, all kids do grow up.  All people do realize eventually they have priorities and need to put that one person they love more then anything first. 

Okay now back to Jason and Sam's perceptive and side of things.  Sam accepts Carly is part of Jason's life.  She respects Carly completely when it comes to Jason.  She has had to over the years.  Carly came with the package.  She walks out of the room every time Carly would come over.  This time around, she has never fought Carly on anything.  She knows what Carly means to Jason and respects it.  She knows that Carly needs someone (Jason) to be consistent in her life because her life is always in crisis.  Sam accepts this fully.  She may not like it but she has just accepted it.  But Sam is asking that Carly respect the fact she will be Jason's wife.  She will be living in the same place with Jason and they will be each others other half. 

Jason knows Carly's life has been a huge crisis since the day he met her.  She has always counted on him and he loves her (as a sister) very much.   He wants to be there for her if she needs someone to count on and he plans to be there for her.  However, he is asking that she acknowledge he isn't her sole pet to be kept in her clutches for her entire life. Jason is entitled to do what he wants with his life.  Jason is entitled to have a life.  Sam is part of that life.  He wants Sam to be first in his life because that is how it should be.  He loves Sam with his whole heart. He wants to be with her and only her.  He didn't race out to tell Carly because he told the one person that matters completely to him (Sam) and beyond that doesn't really care how or who finds out when.  Carly isn't first in his life.  Even though he has treated Sam that she matters over the years he wants to fully commit himself to Sam and part of that is showing Carly her place in his life.  She isn't first, SAM IS!  Today was a long time coming for Carly and Jason's relationship.  Jason has always respected Carly's relationships with other men and 15 million marriages, it is time Carly has to do that.

Finally Maxie found the ring.  While I was really hoping Jason would pull a gun on Maxie to get the ring back, given Maxie lost it in the first place. I thought it was cute that she decided he needed to give it to Sam in a romantic way.  I hope this romantic ring giving event takes place before Carly barges into the Penthouse on Friday demanding Jason's help once again and he nearly dies.  I hope Jason and Sam get at least one more romantic moment before everything changes and Jason fights for his life.  One more memory to hold on to that will help him pull through those dark few weeks we wait for him to wake up and survive all the surgeries. 

Today was a good GH day.  I didn't watch a full episode last week.  I was getting worried but things are looking up.  I am hopeful again and we all should be.  Call the comment lines.  Write the letters, send the emails.  FIGHT FOR OUR SOAP.